showing you their beauty

I spent such a great weekend with my family! Seeing older married couples and soon to be married couples welcome a new member. Congratulations to my aunt and new uncle! With all that LOVE, with all that black love- I just had to share it. 


Think the best words that sum it up and gives me inspiration besides what the media portrays and the rumors society generates, are the words of my great aunt. Who has been married for decades! Everyone has their secret, but she shared hers and I think its just so beautiful. (had to change up some of the names, etc...)


WEDDING

Within recent times marriages are growing cold and weak, just as sheep go astray. It’s of vital importance to keep your light burning, just ask me. The master gave you both each other so don’t fail him. Brother your marriage began when you both agreed to get married. Marriage is bonded together with three cords. One cord belongs to you, Sister, one belongs to you and the middle cord belongs to God. With this arrangement there are no cords belonging to your parents, relatives, friends & co-workers. The only third party that is allowed intervene is God. His way of life is your guide to a successful marriage and should always be considered.

Always consider your love as a vacation you love to enjoy and you will always have a loving marriage, fewer disappointments, and ensuring there are no failures.

Even though I can’t be here to share this moment with you both, know that I am here in spirit.

So to everyone, enjoy this momentous occasion to the fullest, and to the new Groom and Bride, you have blessed wishes from my family and I.

Love








Shout out to my family.


LESSON LEARNED: Love exists. Just have to be patience enough to find it, and work hard to keep it- mutually.

I Will Bring a Bat

SOOOO if anyone notices.... I've been lost for a while. Like from LIFE. I can't remember the last time I was really home to chill except... like 2 weeks ago where I discovered my roommate and I will basically NOT see each other for liiiike 2 1/2 months from this point in the year moving forward.


With all this movement and long hours at work- I haven't gotten a chance to sit and think about LIFE. MY LIFE. PEOPLE. PEOPLEINMYLIFE.


Soooo I feel like its story time?


My best friends and I are the most unique group of friends I've ever encountered. We don't talk everyday or even see each other often. We are never each other's go-to wing-girls or even do things annually.... One moved to Pittsburgh and my other bff moved up the block. We went to separate colleges for 4 years each, and never spoke more than 2-4 times each semester, unless we texted, emailed, or called an emergency rant/breakdown sesh. I can text emergency and my girls will hold off plans, or MAKE TIME to see me when I need them the most. Since we've developed this type of friendship security, (but lose out on the daily memories) we've started a series of chain emails to each other.... It's like the best pen pal system EVER! We go in rotation (well,sometimes). And lately- WECANTSTOPREPLYINGALLEVERYDAY! I love it. Life is never too busy right?


SO I think the only appropriate thing to do is close out with inspiraitonal words- right? Cause all we need in life are some inspirational words to get by... hahaaaa


Big up to my besties, and shout out to them for THEIR inspirational, irrational, and blindly loyal words!


EXPERIENCE BEING GAINED: "One thing for all of us to remember in our separate life journeys, yet together like a trinity is...to take time to do what we can't do without while we do what we gotta do."  ..... 'If you get upset or you can't do without a bubble bath, make time for a bubble bath every week, make time to do some personal reading, make time for family b/c life is a story of busy, you're never not gonna be busy so you might as well make time for yourself'. In short, DO YOU, while running the rat wheel!"

80/20 Rule

Ever heard of the 80/20 rule?


My best friend brought up this interesting topic that I've never thought existed! But when I asked another friend about it, they told me it was from the movie "Why did I get Married". (CLEARLY- I was not paying attention) Either way- so let's talk about it because it seems to be a true theory/rationale to some people and I an see the rationale.


The theory is:


in a relationship you can only get 80% of what you want/need, and when you meet someone who gives the missing 20%- you believe they are giving you all that you were missing.


I can see how this theory works. Human nature always makes people remember the worst parts of someone first before they remember the best parts. And people always recognize what they don't have before they stop to appreciate what they DO. 


What are the things that people feel drops in the missing 20% range tends to be? I really can't think of much right now. But I do know that relationships are about compromise! And you can't always get what you want (this post has maxed out my use of cliche terms already..time to stop.)


I also think you can get your 100%! But-hey- I'm also an idealist... lol.


But really there's no excuse for stupidity- choosing a 20%'er over an 80%'er- buuuuuut we all know that life is about fulfilling desires, wants and immediate missing links. What makes instant satisfaction more important than thinking about each move before you do it? 



LESSON LEARNED: Ultimately, life is about personal choice and recognizing what you REALLY need and deserve in life! 
If something in that 20% range is something you realized is what you need- GO FOR IT! Just make sure to think about what your 80% is..

learning french

so today was another long day full of hypertension in my heart and high stress. so on days like this I like to come home to a bottle of wine. Unfortunately, today- I couldn't make that dream come true, but this video makes me realize. No matter WHERE I am- at a park with only one tree; a really swanky party; or even on the subway- I can always open a class of wine as long as I have closed-toe shoes on!


So to continue the randomosity and also to TEACH you something click the link! (it would help if you knew french, but the hand gestures help a lot) :0)

http://www.wimp.com/wineshoe



LESSON LEARNED: you can open a wine bottle anywhere! And who won't want to know THIS party trick!

couldn't have said it better myself

Have a blogger friend. Who addressed a topic I sure had on my list to address, but he did it so eloquently... I might as well just post his words...

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